Hair Knots (05/16)

Being a girl is harder than it looks.
it’s not all cookbooks / and bakeoffs / and sugar / and spice.
it’s sometimes nice
but sometimes
Christ
it’s harder than it looks.

Looks matter more than anything.
you can say,
You’re so smart
or
You’re hilarious!
or call me capable / hardworking / talented / any number of
ungendered non-physical compliments
But they’re all measured in Distance from being
Darling. You’re gorgeous today.

There is a Gold Standard to Femininity
(Societally speaking)
and it’s Beauty.
I used to get catcalled
and followed
and have uncomfortably Non-Platonic Encounters at parties
Twelve Inches of Hair Ago.

Now that I’m shorn
(God, what a relief)
Showers are fast
But social judgements brief:
My name’s easier to remember
I’m
That girl with the short hair
But That Girl means more
read: a statement on femininity
or lack of it.
It’s a detraction
from what I could be
which is
(Societally speaking)
Pretty.

Who would have thought
Hair tangles in more ways than one?
At the nape of your neck
And in how you’re a woman.

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